off, but the tension grew after he brought it up, and my mom responded with anger and denial.
For days, Joseph guarded his wallet closely, but one night, I got up for a glass of water and caught my mother calmly taking money from his wallet. When I confronted her, she admitted she’d been secretly taking it as a form of “rent” since we hadn’t offered to pay. She felt unappreciated and justified her actions, though she never once asked us directly for help. Her secrecy and resentment were a shock.
The next morning, we decided to move out. Within a few days, we packed and left a note behind explaining that we needed space. Mom didn’t contact us for two weeks. When she finally called, she apologized, acknowledging she had crossed a line. I forgave her, but told her we wouldn’t be returning to live under her roof.
Since then, we’ve kept a respectful distance. We now see her occasionally, and the relationship has improved. She visits with kindness and boundaries, never touching Joseph’s belongings again. From a bit further away, it’s easier to love her.