The father shared his dilemma, writing: “My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing of wealth. Now my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter’s dream wedding a reality?”

Redditors swiftly weighed in with their opinions, with one person writing: “If she can’t pay for a destination wedding on her own, then she shouldn’t be having a destination wedding. It seems cruel but it’s true. Not to mention there’s so much more money involved with the flights and the hotels and stuff. Is she going to be paying for her own ticket or are you expected to fork out for them too? And her fiancé’s ticket.”

They continued: “Not to mention the fact that she’s thrown a strop and isn’t talking to you tells me she doesn’t deserve it. I’m a believer of we are not entitled to our parents money. I don’t expect any inheritance off of my dad if he ever passes, One Redditor even proposed a compromise: the father should only contribute an amount he was comfortable with, which would allow the daughter to plan her wedding within that budget.

“Establish the amount of $$ you are willing to provide and give her the budget. Tell her anything above that is on her and her fiance. Make sure to tell her if that includes travel, etc for the bridal couple and family members. If she wants a blow out wedding, she can pay for it,” they wrote. So far, the father has not made any updates, only that his daughter is calling him a jerk and is refusing to speak with him… How ungrateful!

This story definitely serves as a reminder of how challenging it can be to navigate the delicate balance between generosity and practicality, especially as a parent.