When my husband Derrick demanded a detailed to-do list to help with our daughter, I was stunned but agreed with a twist. The frustration of doing everything alone while he sat idle had built up for too long. That morning, while he scrolled on the couch and I juggled Amelia’s care, something in me snapped. I decided if he wanted instructions, I’d give him a list he’d never forget.

The list I handed him was no joke it detailed everything from diaper changes to daycare drop-offs, meals, nap routines, and playtime. He read line after line, realizing just how much he’d taken for granted since Amelia was born. But it was the final item that stopped him cold: “Final task: Pay child support.” His hands froze, and I watched his face turn pale as the message sank in. I calmly explained that I’d write lists for a co-parent, not a husband refusing to act like one.